Welcome to the latest installment of Decorating for your Personality. Today we’re looking at ISFJ the Nurturer. This is part of a sixteen part series looking at how your Myers Briggs personality profile affects your decorating choices. Most recently we looked at ISFP (Artist) and principles they should be considering in their home decor. In this series, it’s important to remember that everyone has different tastes when it comes to home decor, but each of us have preferences that can often be traced back to our personality profile and how we perceive and react to the world. By better understanding our personality profile, we can make informed decorating decisions that can lead to more peaceful living and well-rounded lives.
In this guide, I will not attempt to tell you whether country cottage fits you better, or if you are more the modern eclectic type. We all are drawn to different styles, and similar personalities will not necessarily have similar decorating tastes. But, they will have similar ways of making decisions, evaluating choices, and experiencing the decor in their homes. Which is why, in this series, I will be focusing on broader concepts and decision making in your home decor versus specific design styles.
ISFJ’s are one of the largest represented MBTI groups, and let me tell you, I am so thankful! These types keep our society running smoothly with their generous and caring spirits. They can proudly call Mother Theresa one of their own. On a fun note, Dr. John Watson in the Sherlock Holmes stories is also a Nurturer (love those movies!). For a more indepth analysis of the ISFJ, visit here.
ISFJ’s live in a tangible world; they see the way things ought to be and truly believe the best of people. They are aware of others’ feelings and have a keen memory for personal details. ISFJ’s are very reliable and embrace tradition in that they believe in the systems in place are there because they work for the most part. They are not likely to express their own personal feelings, even though they possess a healthy awareness of them. Overall, ISFJ’s are warm, generous, and dependable, possessing a unique sensitivity to those around them.
- Nurture Through Decor. Perhaps more than any other type, the Nurturer has a deep sensitivity to others’ feelings. Allow this unique ability of yours to shine through in the way you decorate your home. Invest time personalizing each bedroom to the person it belongs to. Often the bedroom is the most neglected room in the house, not so for the ISFJ! Show your attention to others and their personal feelings by creating an atmosphere that reflects the individual. Or if you live alone, let your home reflect you and your unique feelings (as you also have a keen self-awareness).
- Trust the System. As an ISFJ, you have a clear idea of way things should be. Also you believe systems that are in place are there because they work. Based on this, you will find the most peace in your home when following tried and true methods. Rule of thumb measurements and decorating tricks based on ratios and apportionment are all great decorating rules to stick by. Using these will bring you symmetry and balance into your house.
- Try New Things. As a personality type that tends toward the traditional, you can experience personal growth by trying new décor themes and techniques in your home. Often Nurturer’s are not opposed to new ideas, but they must be shown how they function in a concrete way. Take notice of different styles and new ideas when you visit others’ homes. Ask them how those designs function and how they came to choose them. Experiencing them tangibly will help give you the confidence to go for it, and get a little creative in your home style!
- Be Hands-On. Due to your sensing tendency, you likely learn best by doing rather than reading or applying theory. This means that when you are DIYing a décor project, you will benefit greatly from video tutorials and other illustrative outlines. Anything that assists you in the hands-on learning process will be most helpful. (As an ENTP, this concept is a little hard for me to wrap my head around as I am extremely conceptual vs. hands-on. But, after considering it for a while, I think the creative process for you ISFJ’s occurs while you carry the project out, versus for me, it’s primarily in the planning stage)
- Display your Organization. ISFJ’s have the ability to keep things running smoothly. You’re extremely dependable and hard workers. Let your home be your helper as you go about completely your tasks throughout the day. Display your to-do lists and calendar schedules in attractive ways across your walls. Not only will this help you keep on top of things, it also serves to remind others of all the behind-the-scenes chores you do to care for and nurture them! 😉
- Appreciate You. Nurturer’s tend to place other peoples’ needs before their own. This beautiful quality that helps make this world a better place can also lead to our Nurturer’s being taken for granted and under-appreciated. Because of this, as an ISFJ, it’s important to build your own wants and needs into the function and décor of your home. Create a space in your home dedicated to your own rest and relaxation. Incorporate colors and styles that really make you happy, rather than always deferring to others. This may be easier said than done, but start with little steps: a corner of the living room with your favorite pillows, paint an accent wall the bedroom your favorite color, or hang the lyrics to your favorite song in your living room.
- Promote Harmony. The Nurturer highly values harmony and cooperation. Promote these qualities within your own home through the way you organize and decorate your home. Use colors that bring peace such as greens and blues, and consider avoiding large amounts of colors that cause angst or discord like yellow and orange. Utilize openness as a concept throughout your home to encourage family cooperation and inclusion.
Good News for the Nurturer
1. As an ISFJ you have a very well-developed sense of space, function, and aesthetic. Particularly because of your Sensing characteristic, your attention to detail is great. Often Nurturers have beautifully furnished and functional homes. Your affinity for the physical world and its aesthetic and form allow you to furnish and decorate your home in a way that flows extremely well and is attractive and appealing to the eye.
2. Your combined assets of physical awareness and sensitivity to others make you an excellent gift giver. One way you can express this ability is by gifting others the comfortable environment of your home. Achieve this by creating a warm and welcoming feel, offering plenty of space for seating and relaxation, and having helpful amenities (such as coffee, extra towels, or snacks) easily at hand.
And there you have it, decorating considerations for ISFJ (the Nurturer). I’d love to hear from you ISFJ’s out there and how you use your ability to pour into others through your home. Do you have a hard time recognizing your own accomplishments? Let me know what you think, and thanks for reading! See the full collection below….
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